Every couple begins their relationship with high and joyous expectations. When things go wrong and their repair attempts fail they often seek out the help of a psychotherapist. My experience in working with couples is that it can be difficult work, but extremely rewarding. Most couples are highly motivated to work very hard to rekindle their love for one another, and to find balance and respect.
We begin our sessions together by defining the problem(s) as clearly as possible, and listening very carefully to each other's perceptions and experiences. Couples are guided to deal with points of conflict and unhappiness while confronting deeply rooted and sometimes very hidden belief systems. These belief systems are commonly left over from our familial histories. These familial histories influence our present day relationships in ways that are often very surprising AND relieving to the couple once they are discovered and worked through. Couples are guided to make foundational changes in emotional and verbal communicaton patterns, and to practice these changes both inside and outside of the therapy office.
The type of couples therapy I do is designed to focus on both the relationship and the two separate individuals that make up the relationship. This style of couple's therapy can be very intense but also very fruitful because we work hard to understand the day to day accumulations as well as the tangled roots of the struggles. Once couples finish their work they often relay to me that understanding each other, and themselves, on these more intimate levels was a major factor in making their relationship better.
If this seems like the style of couples therapy you are looking for, I welcome you to call me for further information.
Contact: (206) 284-4321
toriallen@icloud.com
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Couples come into therapy who are....
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In crisis about the future of their lives together.
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Dealing with unhealthy emotional boundaries.
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Distraught from failures of communication.
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Suffering from sexual dysfuntion.
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Drifting apart.
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